7 signs that you're in EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

1. HE WANTS YOUR UNDIVIDED ATTENTION 24/7

Sounds awesome, doesn’t it? It’s definitely not. When a guy leaves behind his hobbies and his friends to be attached at your hip, it’s a big sign that your relationship is taking a turn in the wrong direction. I understand that it’s normal for a couple to want to frequently hang out for the first few months, but if you barely have time for yourself; this guy is trying to control you.

2. HE ACTS LIKE A DICTATOR AND MAKES ALL THE RULES IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

He doesn’t let you hang out with your girls but its ok if he hangs out with his guys doing as he pleases. He’ll complain that your friends are too slutty and that they are bad influences on you. He’ll say that he hates your best friend. She’s probably the one that is trying to make you see that you are in an emotionally abusing relationship and heading for nowheresville.

 3. HE ISOLATES YOU FROM PEOPLE THAT YOU LOVE

One of the worst signs that you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship is that you are losing contact with family and friends. Lately your world revolves around him to avoid fighting and constant accusations that you are cheating. What your guy is doing is trying to force you to choose between him and the rest of the people you know. You should be able to talk to anyone that you like without having to answer to him!

4. HE’S TAKING AWAY YOUR FREEDOM AND NEEDS TO KNOW YOUR EVERY MOVE

A really bad sign of an emotionally abusive relationship is if your boyfriend demands that you tell him details like where you are going, what you are doing and who you are with. He gets mad whenever you do something without telling him. You are mentally exhausted because you have to constantly explain your actions.

5. HE USES THE SILENT TREATMENT TO PUNISH YOU

An emotionally abusive guy will refuse to answer text messages, phone calls and e-mails when he gets mad at you. He won’t tell you the reasons that he is mad at you either. Instead, he’ll just disappear off the face of the earth until he feels that you have been punished enough.

6. HE PUTS YOU DOWN AND HURTS YOUR FEELINGS

Words like «stupid», «crazy», «fat» and «ugly» aren’t even in the vocabulary of a good relationship. This guy is trying to put you down so he has total control over you. An emotionally abusive guy will accuse you of making a big deal out of nothing when you tell him he’s being hurtful. This type of guy is so insecure of himself that he needs to lower your self-esteem to ensure that you always stay with him.

7. HE IS EXTREMELY JEALOUS OF YOUR GUY FRIENDS, FAMILY MEMBERS AND PRETTY MUCH ANY GUYS THAT HAPPEN TO BE ON PLANET EARTH

When you are out together, he’s constantly accusing you of looking at other guys. Or he’ll accuse you of trying to make him jealous whenever you dress sexy. He doesn’t let you wear cute and sexy things girls love like your favorite summer mini dress and strappy metallic heels. It’s better to keep your awesome fashion sense-lose the abuser.

You have a right to be in a loving relationship in which a guy treats you with kindness, compassion and most of all respect. It’s far better to be rocking the single life with your personal freedom intact and fabulous girlfriends than to be stuck with an emotional abuser who chips away at your sanity. Always walk away if you see the signs that you’re an emotionally abusive relationship and make way for a good guy to enter your life. You deserve nothing less. So ladies, how many of you out there are dealing with an emotionally abusive guy?

                                                                                                                           - Fatima  

The passing year

By :- My most loving Friend , Ishuwan Mehta . " HAPPY NEW YEAR " With snowy sheath of december's bed, I am lying over still but still not dead, Dusk is arriving shouting with silent fear, Waving with eyes I am 'The passing year'. Travelling with months weeks and days, I made my roads glowing all the ways, From harsh sorrow to cheering smiles, I walked over counting miles and miles. Cycle of birth and death always flowed, Times it raced and the times it slowed, I was there inspecting the time's deed, Now with greetings I would be freed. People dance with the arrival of new, Caring for dreams which they had sew, My welcome has gone now its my last, Burning calmly am becoming ash of past. With my maytr beginning will sprout, Smiles will dance again joy will shout, Chorus of blast will make me disappear, Waving with eyes I am 'The passing year'.

I do not know LOVE . I am so ignorant .

I just want a piece of her mind . I want to know the real depth of her heart. I want to know how does she feel , when she talks to me ? I want to know her  completely , from tip to toe .

People say they can feel . Even i say so . But  truth is I just feel gush in my veins , increased heart beat , sweet and light pain in my chest . These things are way too physical  . Even she feels these things , she told me . But if I say , I understand her feelings , I would be lying . I can not lie to her rather I will try my best to know her . I wanna know her feelings . I wanna reach that abstract , that environment , the atmosphere of her imagination , her first natural thought when she talks to me . I want access to her mind and heart . I want to be like her . I wanna be her itself .

I have this thought that LOVE is something like smog in the fog , somewhere something trapped , entangled in the heart , interwoven with veins and arteries . Or may be something that I can never see, can never touch can never feel , no matter how long i keep exploring , searching for it .

I am confused . Does love exist or not ? If yes , is it physical like the way me , you or she feels ? or is it an abstract ? another doubt , are feelings abstract or physical ? Now , i doubt even the existence of feeling , if its abstract . And once again , curious me wants to know , what is abstract ? Is it real and rational ? Is it abstract itself ? Is it absolute ?

She is the most awsome person i have ever talked to . She is a psychologist . She studied it in her college . I know she is a very bright student . I believe she knows everything . She knows all my doubts . She has got all the solutions . She can quench my thirst .  She understands me . She knows what I am searching for ? I wish to ask her everything , all my doubts . I wanna share my everything with her , all my dilemmas . I wanna empty my head and heart to her . But don't know why I am so hesitant ? Hope she only has the reason for this also .

O my magician , my dear ! take things out of my head and heart , feel my feelings , make it yours  . Else they will never come out . Even , I will never get to know what it was ? Its only you who can lead me from darkness to light , from sorrow to happiness , from doubts to knowledge . You already know , I trust you like you are the only truth , you are absolute truth in this whole universe (or if something bigger exists ,even in thoughts and imaginations ) .

I have surrendered myself to you . Make me man , or whatever I deserve . Take me to my destiny , or wherever you wanna lead me to .  You are the only one in this world . YES , I mean it . All others do not exist for me . They are just used used by you to explain things to me . I am searching for truth . I am searching the real Love . My lord ! show your grace .

People talk about god . The way they describe , I believe I found my god .I feel so small , when I talk about her . She is infinite , very strong . She came on this earth just to liberate me from sufferings and pain . I can not explain her . I don't know what she is . I will never know , actually . Sorry ! for my failed attempts . I beg pardon .

If love exists , I wanna know it /her/or whatever form love has . If its directional and can be directed , I want my love to be directed to you . I want to love you . I want to love you in the most genuine form of love my dear , fatima !

Still , Ignorance is killing me . Love is killing me . But don't you worry , its me who choose to fall in love .
I wanna know the truth . I want you to be my mentor in the process . I want you to experience that feeling of love with me . Hold my hand , lead me to love ..... lead me to truth , the real truth.

Leaving my pen , else will keep writing night long ...may be untill I die . And I promise , I will never allow such things to come in my mind again . Don't wanna share the reason for that with any living soul !

                                   I know nothing , but my ignorance .


breaking this pen ....! smash! thudd !!!!!!!! ink spreads all over the table ...

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If you read this....
Don't ever talk to me about this . I will not answer anything .
Its just a drop from the ocean of things i have in my heart for you . If you can feel it , its my luck . Else everything is just garbage for me . I don't want any discussion , please .

I believe true love comes once in a lifetime.

By- Fatima <Frowning Frog >


I believe true love comes once in a lifetime. 

All of those other times you love someone, it isn't that real, soul-mate bond that will happen for you someday. Because that true love will last forever, not just for a certain period of time.

I believe in a loving God.

Sometimes He has to give us things that we don't think we can survive through, or things that are hard for us. But He will not give us something we cannot handle, and if we trust in Him, then we will come out the other side stronger and better for it. God will only put something or someone in our life for us to learn from, and it will be there just long enough for us to catch on.

I believe that it doesn't matter where you have been, it matters where you are going.

I don't think that anyone has a right to judge you for your past simply because it is your past. I believe that what matters about a person is not what choices or mistakes they have made before, it is what they are doing since then, and what they continue to do in the future that makes the person. Your past may define part of who you are, but it is your actions and your choices going forward that make the difference in the end.

I believe that no one in this world should feel completely alone.

Because you aren't. There are people out there who you may not have met yet, but who would still be there for you. There is someone out there who would do anything to show you that they could be there for you. Who would give their right arm just to make you happy, who would love to be a part of your life, if they only weren't so scared of screwing up whatever they do have with you.

I believe that the night is darkest just before the dawn.

That the hardest time of your life will be followed by something beautiful, by something amazing. That those moments when you feel like our entire world is caving in is preparing you for the true beauty in what is coming your way. Without true pain and suffering, you could never truly appreciate happiness; without seeing the ugliness that the world has to offer, you couldn't appreciate the beauty; without the contrast, you would never learn how to appreciate the contradiction that is a human life.

I believe that reading a book is worth more than watching a movie.

A book stretches your imagination. It gives you a chance to think without true limits. The thing that writers do (at least, the good ones) is that they leave some things rather hazy in their descriptions, so that you can let your imagination run wild. I love being able to create a whole new world inside of my head, and when I describe it, I imagine a reader coming to that scene, and imagine how their imagination just explodes with images, ones that I have put there and ones they have themselves. I love it.

I believe that some of the best quotes of all time never get repeated because they are said between friends.

Because sometimes you don't want people to know what is going on in your life, so you refuse to say that quote, even when you think its amazing, even if you are the only person who would really get what it means. Because its personal. And thats what makes it one of the best quotes of all time.

And I believe that every person out there deserves to be who they truly are.

Because no one should be judged for just a piece of themselves. You are more than your pieces. You are everything. And no one should make you feel ashamed of the person you truly are, because it is who you are. And if people around you who are a part of your life mind then perhaps they don't belong there.

So, yes. This is what I believe 

नजरों को उठाकर बुलाया हमे

नजरों को उठाकर बुलाया हमे

पलकें बिछाकर बिठाया हमे

दिल की गहराईयों मे लेकर गईं

फिर नज़र से पिलाया उन्होने हमे ||

आँखें एसी नशीली खींचती थी हमे

देखते थे उन्हे,वो देखती थी हमे 

क्या अदा थी कि शरमा के मुस्का गईं 

फिर दीवाना बनाया उन्होने हमे ||

राज की बात उन्होने बताई हमे

इक अदा फिर नयी दिखाई हमे

कुछ बाते जो समझ आई नहीं

फिर नज़र से समझाया उन्होने हमे ||

बहारों के मौसम नजर आए हमे

हसीं वो नज़ारे खींच लाये हमे

दुनिया से दूर हमको वो यूं ले गईं

फिर जलवा दिखाया उन्होने हमे ||

by - Naveen Solanki 

जी ले जरा !!

By - गीतेश मक्कर

कुछ  शरारतें  दबी  सी  रह  जाती  हैं ,
उभरने दो  जिन्हें  तो  बेपरवाही  दे  जाती  हैं ,
कुछ  लम्हे  जो  वक़्त  के  झरनों  में  बह  जाते  हैं ,
ख़ामोशी  में  भी  जो  बहुत   कुछ  कह  जाते  हैं ,
कुछ  ख्वाब  संजोय  थे  नादानी  में ,
कहीं  छिप  न   जाये वो  इस  जवानी  में ,
कुछ  यादें  , कुछ  बातें   और  इक  दास्ताँ  थी ,
कहीं  रह  न  जाये  वो  अनकही   सी ,
कहीं  रह  न  जाये  वो  अनकही   सी .
कहीं  कुछ  ख्वाहिसें   जो  रह  गयी  थी  बचपन  की  अधूरी ,
उन्हें कर दे   एक  बार  अब  भी  पूरी ,
थोडा  बच   के ..
थोडा  खुल  के ..
तू  जी  ले  ज़िन्दगी ..
गर  मनं  में  है  इक  चाहत  अनसुनी  सी ,
सजा ले  इक  सपना
न  बन  जाये  वो  इक कहानी  अनकही  सी ,
है दिल  में  जो  पाने  की  कशिश ,
न  मिला  वो  तो  रह  जाएगी  इक  खलिश ,
बहुत   कर ली  सब की  , अब  सुन  अपनी  भी ,
अधूरी  जो  थी  ज़िन्दगी  पूरी  होगी  तभी ,
थोडा  बच    के ..
थोडा  खुल  के ..
तू  जी  ले  ज़िन्दगी ..
मुस्कुरा  ले  अभी  से  तू   ज़रा  ,
न  रख  पछतावा  - ज़ख्म  कोई  हो  पाए  न  हरा ,
आने  वाले  कल  की  खबर  नहीं ,
इक  पल  का  तुझे  सबर  नहीं ,
तो  खुल  के  निकल  और  कर ले   शरारतें   दिल  की ,
हो  बेपरवाह  तू  जी ले अपनी  इक  ही  ज़िन्दगी ,
थोडा  बच के ..
थोडा  खुल  के ..
तू  जी  ले  ज़िन्दगी ..!!

3 सवाल !!

तेरी नशीली आँखों का नशा आज भी तो है , 
दिल तार हुआ तो क्या नशे में आज भी तो है
पहले प्यार की खुशबू फिजा में आज भी बाकी
मोहब्बत थी नहीं झूठी मुझे अब नाज भी तो है ॥1॥

बता इन अंधे सालों को, जिन्हें दिखती नहीं चाहत
सुनाते रोज ताने है , मुझे मिलती नहीं राहत
मोहब्बत थी नहीं झूठी , जमाना जनता है ये
जो मैंने था किया दिलबर , उस पर नाज भी तो है ॥2॥

किया क्या ? तूने मेरे दिल से, कहा तक चोट पहुंचाई ?
खंजर पीठ पीछे से कब तक खिचती आई ?
मेरी धड़कन की गूंजे तो सारी दिशायें सुनती है
सुना तूने नहीं तो क्या , वो गाता आज भी तो है ॥3॥

अब तू ही बता ,आका ! वफाई थी नहीं सची ?
था मै बवारा या फिर बेहयाई थी तेरी अच्छी ?
इन अंधेर गलियों में , दिया लेकर मोहब्बत का
जो नगमे गा गया एसे ,दिल मेरा साज भी तो है ॥4॥

चला सुनसान सडको पर ,पीछे तेरी परछाई के,
अक्सर ढूंढा था तुझको ,हर लम्हे में तनहाई के ,
मेरे कदमो की आहट को सुना तूने नहीं था क्या ?
पर मेरे जज़्बातों में ,दिल की आवाज़ भी तो है ॥5॥

क्या तूने आज तक जाना, प्रेम चीज है तो क्या ?
प्रीत कहते किसको है , रिश्तों का वजूद है क्या ?
फिर तेरा दूर यूं होना और मुह फेरकर जाना
तेरे यूं गैर होने का यही आगाज भी तो है ॥6॥

क्यू तुझको रूबरू होकर, क्या था कुछ नहीं कहना ?
तुझे क्या अच्छा लगता है अपने गुनाहों का गहना ?
चलो मै माफ़ करता हूँ तेरी नादान सी हरकत ,
ये फिर बेवफाई का तेरी , नया अंदाज़ भी तो है ॥7॥

Girls - 6 ^_^

The next step to the series but this time without much introduction...! Although i am writing on girls and its not their signature traits. Read and get a chance to giggle, wink, blush and at times get annoyed (girls obviously!)

* Starters and Statuatory Warnings : They are the masters of starting a conversation with "Oye tujhe pata hai? Or ek baat btauu?" and end it with "Ye baat maine sirf TUMHE hi btayi hai, please please please kisi ko mat batana"

* Awwww is nothing but the extended and girly version of Ohhhh!!

Awwww so cute...

-There was nothing such as Awww before

* They skip meals so oftenly that forces me to think that

Do they live on Food or Feelings ??

Coz whenever they r asked about a meal the answer is out of "Mann nahi hai, bhookh ni hai, mood ni tha etc n so on "

* Their favourite slang is **** ***

now they better understand that

* Jealousy is intrinsic n latent in them although its strongly present in them , just needs an activation #Beware Praise but absolutely not relatively otherwise its waste..!

* They repeat their statement without fail when they are not noticed or paid attention by the listener with a thought in mind

"How dare u ignore.. Or desperately.. Kamino koi to sunlo "

* They are rarely short of expressions but when there is a drought of expressions it suggests emotional unstability or may be the pressure of anger building deep inside .

* Their BRAIN omg!

No Brain sorry its not brain actually the brain structure is like a maze in which once a thought enters it too hard to find d way n come to a decision..

Teri aankhien bhool bhulaiyyan , baatien hain bhool bhulayyian

* A feeble line separates their entertainment n boredom activities. They are either happily entertained or badly bored : no half way state exists

Most of them fail on how to utilize their free time n fall bored

* Twirling their hair and adjusting their top repeatedly are the most common public gestures made by them irrespective of the time,space n season:p

*to be continued*

Geetesh Makkar

You Were The Driver, After All

bY - Fatima Alegre Gervacio ( Frowning Frog ! :-P )

You are driving down a road,

but of course,

the road is really not a road.

It never it is.

Here, the kiss you give

to the person sitting next to you

is not a kiss.

Its a punch to the face.

Here, I love you

is I despise you,

Here, laughter is not ringing out,

what you're actually hearing

is the plink of tears on corduroy.

Here, there is no translation

for wanting to pull up the lock on the door

and tumbled out onto concrete.

There is no metaphor for that.

See, I lied before -

You're not the driver.

You're the passenger.

All the things you see

through that grimy window

are not ever what they seem.

The vultures you are staring at through thw windshield

have the same talons as home.

But the one with the crooked wing

and dangerously bright eyes

is flying just a little too close.

And the rain isn't falling on your window,

its on your roof.

Because the car wasn't the car,

it was your house.

And now, the sound of liquid bullets barraging the metal

that has somehow melted

into the more supple consistency of your skin

is reminding of you of the shadow lying beside you.

And no, a shadow isn't just a shadow.

You squint your eyes and all you see

is the cheshire smile hanging in the air

because that was all that was left behind.

And you threw out the gifts that were not gifts

that did or did not mean love

into the trashcan that wasn't a trashcan

but a piece of glass that spits out

tremors, bitter thoughts and peace.

And the crash that occurs

in the few moments you took your eyes off the road

to watch black feathers slowly circling

is the night he struggle your hands

off his shoulder for the first time

and you realized

the magnitude of the miscalculation.

I guess, you were the driver, after all.

I Wish !!

By- GaZaL ( Mridul Makkar ) ^_*

I wish you were here to have a view, of what am i going through. Happiness and Tribulations trail, thus making me frail. I wish sorrows take a halt, for i am not at fault. I don't wish for crowns, not even for things which make me frown. For Minutes and hours i scream, of what could make life like dreams. Each day i plead, for how could i stop to bleed. It isn't what appears is always true, for life is a paradox, which gives many shocks. I wish u were here to have a view, of what am i going through.

I just wishhh ^_*

I Miss You !

by - Geetesh Makkar

The moments we spent together, 
I wonder if they really matter? 
When the situation is worse instead of being better, 
Where all we now have is work's clutter, 
All i can utter : 
The times have changed now, 
And so are you but i don't know how? 
I Miss You 
..... 
In fact The Old "U" 


The frolic, the giggles, the sobs n the affection, 
Which once approached perfection, 
Is now mere a distorted emotion collection, 
I wonder who took the wrong action, 
With whose help or suggestion? 
Though , I Miss You 
..... 
Infact The Old "U" 


Time veered us apart in a fashion, 
I can't even complain anyone for this loss of compassion, 
I cannot control this expression, 
Under whose impression 
I say :  I Miss You 
......
Infact The Old "U"

The Idea of Ultimate Peace !

By - Naveen Solanki

"No one to heal

 No one to deal

 No one to care

 No one to share"

"The pleasure of being alone

 Time to hear every pin on stone"

 Uninterrupted natural music

Echo of sound how’s the magic

 The curves of tides

Always towards sides

Flow of water stealing my heart

But will never stop to talk and distort

A stone dropped in water itself

Who cares not about myself

Few drops then jumped in air

Celebrating that stone came there

“SOMEBODY HAVE GAINED

SOMEBODY HAVE LOST

SOMEBODY GETS PROFIT

SOMEBODY PAYS COST”

“Equilibrium has to be attained

The life has to be maintained.

Desires should be flexible to amend

Because somewhere there is an end”

This moment if it's enjoyment

Next moment it will be discontentment

In whole life full of dealings

Only few hidden things, designed as feelings

The indefinite wings of desire

Not easy every time to acquire

I just took rebirth and started dealings

Have lost many things but no hard feelings

Dealing with my own desires

To whom everyone admires

Don’t you think these all are fake

Stop it now for God's sake...

You better know how it felt

Before eating it your ice-cream melt

Enquire, enquire; enquire your dreams

Then try to put them in different frames

“Do we really belong here?

The world full of words sharp as spear

Betrayal, jealously, infidelity everywhere

Unstoppable race here and there”

 The next moment how it will be

As unsolved riddle without any key

Original face, behind golden mask

And our eyes not daring to ask

Oh! such a betrayal you faced

I have no rights but I just said

 I too have a same story

But you know experience is our glory.

Hey! Every time I started from this point

But my empty hands are what my destiny appoints

Got but lost everything by reaching here

But after journey of miles I have become sincere

If we had nothing then why to be sad

But sadness after joy will kill you as mad.

"If the tears are the things in our final reach

How’s my idea of ultimate peace!!!

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